SAMPLES OF CEREMONY ADDITIONS
The beauty of a wedding can be enhanced with small personal additions. Here are a few samples.
BLENDED FAMILY CEREMONY
Officiant :It is the desire of _________ and _________ to
extend their commitments to each other by making some promises to the children
of this family. As you all join hands to form a new circle of love, we will
seal this union with spoken promises like the rings this bride and groom have
Officiant to the Bride/Groom: Do you _________ and
_________, promise to be faithful, loving, tender and nurturing parents, always
there for _________ (child/children's name), not only providing their/her/his
physical needs, but their/her/his emotional needs as well, always a good
listener, a loving counselor and a friend?
Bride & Groom: We do.
Officiant to the Mother/Father (Speaking to the
Child/Children): (Repeat after me). _________, I want you to know that I love
your mother/father very much. I will not and cannot replace a mother/father
loved by you, however I can promise you that I will love you and care for you
as if you were my own. I promise to be a committed listener. I promise you my
trust, to be fair, my support, what knowledge I can share, to be your friend,
and to provide a shoulder to cry on. I promise to be available to you as I am
to your mother/father.
Bride/Groom to Child/Children: _________, I give you this
_________ (gift) as a sign of my loving promises made this day.
These are the hands of your best friend,
young and strong and full of love for you,
they are holding yours on your wedding day,
as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours,
as you build your future together.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and
throughout the years,
These are the hands with the slightest touch, will comfort
you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold your fears or
when grief fills your mind.
These are the hands that will countless times, wipe the
tears from your eyes –
the tears of sorrow, and the tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will hold your family together, as
These are the hands that will give you strength when you
And lastly, these are the hands that, even when wrinkled and
will still be reaching for and holding yours, still giving
you the same unspoken tenderness, with just a simple touch.
The Peace of the Lord be with you, and all of us.
THE ROSE CEREMONY
__________ and ________, a very important thing to remember of this marriage ceremony, is
that it was love that brought you here today. It is only love which can make it a glorious union, and
it is by love which your marriage shall endure. The rose that you give each
other today is your first gift. A single red rose means “I love you”. It is
love that will make your marriage a glorious union and love that will make your
marriage endure. Remember on each anniversary of this day that it was a rose,
the symbol of love, that was your first gift to each other as husband and wife.
TREE PLANTING CEREMONY
tree is planted in a pot by the bride and groom. Dirt can be “donated” from
their homes, a special place, etc.)
Like the trees on the shore, marriage, too, must be resilient. It must weather
the challenges of daily life and the passage of time.
like the tree that they are planting, marriage requires constant nurturing and
nourishment. As they provide the sun, soil, and water for this tree, they will
provide the encouragement, trust, and love needed on a daily basis to
consciously nurture and nourish their connection to each other. The growth of
this tree will symbolize the strength and growth of this marriage.
THE UNITY CANDLE CEREMONY
Unity Candle symbolizes the joining of two people, or two families or the formation of a new blended
family. A Unity Candle Ceremony can easily be added to any marriage ceremony.
It is placed near the end of the ceremony, following the Exchange of
Rings. A Unity Candle set consists
of two slender candles and a large center candle. The Unity Candle Ceremony is a popular choice for both
religious and non-religious ceremonies because it is non-denominational and has
no religious significance.
Options: If you would like to have the entire audience participate,
give everyone a candle as they enter. When lighting the Unity Candle, each of
you turn and share your light with the first row of seated guests on your side.
Let the guests share the flame from their own small candle with the person
sitting next to them until all the candles are aglow and you are pronounced
wife and husband. The minister can suggest that everyone make a good wish for
the Bride and Groom and blow out the candles.
Another option: If you are creating a new family you may want to include the
children in the lighting of the Unity Candle. Often this is done by having the
bride and groom light the candle for the children and then everyone lighting
the center candle together. This is an excellent way to involve children from a
Officient: The two outer candles represent your individual lives before
today. They represent all that you are from your vast experiences, and they
represent your individual families. As you each take a single candle and light
the center candle, it represents the unity of your life together from this
moment on. As this one light cannot be divided, neither shall your marriage or
lives be divided. May the radiance of this one light be a testimony of your
unity. Now blow out each other’s candle. This represents the
closing of your life as you knew it and signifies the start as a new life as
husband and wife.
As we light this candle, let it represent the unity of ________ and _______and their life
together from this moment on. As this one light cannot be divided, neither
shall their lives or marriage be divided. May the radiance of this one light be a testimony of your
With this marriage a new family is born. ________ and
_______invite _____ and _______to come with them to light a unity candle.
This symbolizes the birth of a new family. With this
marriage and the lighting of this candle, _____, _____, _____, ______and
_______have confirmed the bond among them and promise to respect and listen to
each other so these bonds may continue to deepen through the years.